Are you having an identity crisis too?


Do you remember the struggles of your teen years?  I do.  Leaving the carefree times of childhood and advancing toward adult life left me in this in-between state of uncertainty.  Probably one of the most dreaded questions I could be asked was “What are you going to do when you grow up?”  My answer changed by the day, sometimes by the hour.  The truth is that I didn’t have the foggiest idea and that was scary!

The good news is that I ended up in an occupation I love.  How?  I can only say that it must have been whispered into my subconscious by God because I certainly wasn’t heading toward the dental field – even when I walked onto campus my first year of college.  However, once I started down this path, I never looked back.  More often than not, when talking to people about what they do, I think to myself, ‘Wow, I’m sure glad I’m doing what I’m doing!’  There is a serenity about knowing you are in the right place at the right time.  All is well in the world.

And then some event rocks that calm.  For each of us, the catalyst will be different.  Maybe your children have moved out of the house and you are feeling the empty nest syndrome.  It could be that your body is suffering from the effects of age and you can’t do many of the things that were an integral part of your life.  Possibly, like me, your work situation has changed.  The causes may be different, but the emotional results are very similar.  You are suddenly transported back to that almost forgotten adolescent uncertainty.  Where do I go from here?  It seems like your once stable world has suddenly become a whirling amusement park ride that is leaving you with a woozy feeling.  You aren’t sure what’s ahead.  All you know is you want off now!

Many times we don’t have any control on where life is taking us.  What we can do is change our focus.  Instead of sitting around, lamenting our misfortunes, we can choose to concentrate on what we can do, even with our recent status change.  Together I think we can do just that.  In fact, I have to confess that when I thought long and deep about my recent house cleaning frenzy, I had to admit to myself that it didn’t just serve to expel the dust bunnies and cobwebs, but it gave me new purpose, even if just for a few weeks.  I can’t abide the thought of just sitting on the couch, waiting for the phone to ring with a new employment opportunity.  Not that I’m not continuing to pray that God opens up new doors in this area, but meanwhile I’ll use my time productively.  A clean house may not make my bank account fatter, but there is more to life than just making money.

It could be that your age, condition, or paid work life  will not allow you to clean your house from top to bottom.  That’s okay.  Your sense of self-worth can come from other areas in life.  Stay tuned to future blog posts to give other ideas that can enrich your life.  Instead of focusing on changes in your life that are outside your control, set a resolve to be useful in other ways.  No matter how the storms are swirling around you, there is an eye to the storm – a quiet center of peace.  We can find it together!

For those of you who are still with me on the cleaning challenge, hang in there.  We are almost done and soon we’ll reap the rewards of a fresh, clean house.  Here is this week’s focus – the laundry room/foyer area (including closet):


Have a joyous week!


To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.  Ecclesiastes 3:1

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